Clueless Twenties

  Dear Reader, The majority of us have been in love with someone who can't reciprocate. Well dear reader, this writer has been in such a situation sadly, and some of the time the other person doesn't know the feelings exist. This writer was once in love with a friend. I was so blindly in love with the other party, but I was so good at hiding it. Long story short, I decided I had to move on because nothing was going to come to fruition, and also I couldn't be friends with him anymore, so I ended our friendship and cried myself to sleep. Months later, I saw him, and I felt nothing and got the chance to actually tell him I was in love with him the whole time. For those who haven't yet caught on to what unrequited love is, here is a proper definition: It is a one-sided emotional investment, romantically, of course, often characterized by longing, hope, and frustration. It can feel like you are the only person going through it, but on the contrary, it is a universal thing an...

  Dear Reader, Like fate would have it, we got tired of the BS being fed to us by the older generation and mostly the government and all the governmental institutions that were supposed to protect us. We decided to take matters into our own hands and fight for change. But if we really want to make a difference, unlike our other counterparts or every youth-led movement, our approach needs to change. So here is my unrequited advice. The 1975 student protests, also known as the Kenya National Union of Students (KNUS) protests, occurred before Daniel Arap Moi's election as president of Kenya in 1978. These protests were part of a larger wave of student unhappiness with then-President Jomo Kenyatta's government. The student protests were primarily motivated by dissatisfaction with government policies, such as education, political persecution, and the country's overall economic difficulties. Sounds familiar? But let's get to case study 2. On Saba Saba 1990, opposition groups...

  In today’s fast-paced digital world, love and relationships have taken on new forms and challenges. With endless dating apps, shifting cultural norms, and a world that’s more connected yet more isolated than ever before, navigating love can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. A recent video from the YouTube channel Unsolicited Advice delves deep into these modern complexities, providing an insightful look into the core struggles people face today. The following analysis will dissect these challenges, delve into the essence of modern love, and contemplate timeless philosophies that shed light on our understanding. Love, as defined in the romantic context by the Merriam-Webster dictionary, is an intense feeling of deep affection from one person to another. Modern love deals with the sense of isolation and solitude associated with the commercialisation of feelings and the negative displays of love and, for comparison, while also tapping into meaningful and transformative forms of...

  Intentional friendships, especially from a Christian perspective, are like a beautifully woven fabric of grace and commitment. In a world where relationships can often feel surface-level and transient, these friendships stand as a testament to a deeper, more purposeful connection. They are not just about sharing common interests or spending time together; they are about walking alongside each other in faith, supporting one another through life's ups and downs, and holding each other accountable in our spiritual journeys. At the heart of intentional friendships is the desire to love and be loved in a way that mirrors the unconditional love God shows us. This love isn’t always easy; it requires vulnerability and a willingness to open up our hearts. It means being there for each other not just in times of joy but also in moments of struggle. It’s about sharing our joys and burdens, praying together, and encouraging each other to grow closer to God. Scripture reminds us of the import...

  Dear Reader, At the end of last year, and better part of this year, this writer came to the realisation that she has been overwhelmed with stress and anxiety. Mostly from unfunctional and casual friendships that she has been holding onto for far too long. So I set out to find wisdom from the only place I trust for guidance, the Bible and prayer. So dive into the fountain of knowledge that is the Bible and prayer, and let go of what is holding you back. Boundaries are essential for maintaining healthy relationships, protecting our well-being, and honouring God’s design for how we should interact with others. Some relationships taint our hearts, and from the heart comes the abundance of life, some cause distraction from worship and in return take our full attention, hence taking the place of God's altar in our hearts. In Proverbs 4:23, Scripture says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” This reminds us that boundaries help protect our hearts fro...

  Dear Reader, A lot of us are deceived by the illusion of perfection on social media. You are told to look a certain way, act a certain way, and be a certain way to fit in. Social media influencers and marketers take the opportunity to manipulate you into buying products in large numbers that you don't need at all. Let's delve into the world of consumerism and consumer manipulation. In the early 18th century, in the countries of north-western Europe, the Industrial Revolution began to transform the economy and shape consumer culture as we know it today. Economies began to expand, and wages rose, leading to an increase in disposable income and the ability to purchase more goods and services. Their spending started a positive economic spiral. Revenue grew, and profits rose in direct proportion to their expenditures. Observers realised by the middle of the 18th century that they were seeing a historic shift, which historians have since referred to as the first consumer revolution...

  Dear Reader, Disguised as tough love, there is mental, emotional, physical, and financial abuse in African homes. Let it be noted that not all African homes are abusive, and what is not mentioned here can be found in all African homes, but we also have to acknowledge that most African homes condone abuse in the name of tough love and discipline. Let's take action to address these issues and work towards creating safer environments for all individuals together. It is crucial to break the cycle of abuse and promote healthy relationships within families. It is time, as Africans, that we address this, so let's address it: For many of us, our first experiences of abuse came from our parents. The toxicity then influenced how we view and treat others in our relationships. Confidence and self worth were broken down, and now you can not seem to recognise yourself out of the cycle of abuse. By understanding and reflecting on this, you can rebuild yourself, recognise your worth, and emb...